Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Ever just want to scream?

Sometimes I just don't get it.

Today we got an update from our case worker. Totally appreciate the update, but frustrated with the news. There are several things that still need to be completed before our case can be submitted to the court so we can have a court date. Great-aunt needs to file for custody for Li'l B in order to be able to relinquish her to be placed for adoption. This is a process that she will complete through the local court in the area where she is from. There are other documents that she must obtain from government offices in her area (documents required for relinquishment cases and a document verifying the death of the children’s mother), and she has been informed of what is needed and how to obtain the documents. My immediate reaction is, "ARE YOU KIDDING?" None of this has been done yet? Why??? She was brought to the Gladney foster care last AUGUST, and now great-aunt is being instructed on how to get the required documents. What about the past 8 months???

And here I was just thinking we were waiting on a call from Natalie for our court date. Ha! Well, at least now I don't have to get a tad excited every time the phone rings for a while.

So discouraged (you know the kind, where you feel like someone just punched you HARD in the gut), but I know I won't stay in this place long. It sucks to be here, and I have been able to trust God in the past, so need to throw this on his back and trust in him again.

Glad God is NEVER surprised.

26 comments:

Robin said...

Oh, I so feel your pain. We waited 3-1/2 months for a court date...not sure what the original delays were...but when we finally made it through local court -- one of the documents had the orphanage name instead of ours. I literally broke down and cried hysterically on the phone to Mary, our caseworker, when we found out it was going to be another couple of weeks before we'd get our final court date. Others were getting court dates almost immediately...and we were still waiting. It made no sense to me......still doesn't. I have to fall back on that God is bigger than me,,,and He knows best. Not always easy,,,,especially when our children are involved.

I'm curious if "your" orphanage is the same one our kids came from...email me at robinrankin@yahoo.com and we can chat.

Anyway.....I wonder if all this has something with me praying that God would make me a compassionate person...because I surely have an enormous amount of compassion for families that have continued delays.....(this is our 2nd adoption...and we had a huge delay with our first one too!)

Robin

Ellen Enright said...

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this news.

I'll be thinking of you and your family.

Jen said...

So sorry.

Nikki said...

So sorry for your delays. Ugh. But it brings me comfort, too, and a small dose of peace when I remember that God isn't surprised by my circumstances. Thanks for sharing your frustration and your faith. Praying for speedy paperwork.

Mary and Doug said...

I'm thinking of you and will keep your case in my prayers. So sorry for the extra delays - it is really hard to see the big picture isn't it?!

Paula said...

Oh, how I know what you're feeling! I was SO THERE last week, and then we got a surprise call on Thursday that we passed court. What a difference a day makes! I will keep your family in my prayers and hopefully Baby B's paperwork will all be completed in a TIMELY fashion so that you can bring her home soon.

Andrea said...

I am so sorry for your delay, that is certainly a kick in the pants. Prayers for quick turn around...this time.

coffeemom said...

Yeah, me too. I'll scream FOR you ok??? Sigh. I know that exact feeling, it's a kick to the solar plexus and I"ve still got it too. I so so so HATE this for you and I'd be kicking and jumping up nad down saying the same thing. This is a crazy crazy process, and it's so hard since it's so out of our control but hte simplest most common sense things seem somehow not to be considered or done. I can't fathom it and I guess we aren't supposed to. This takes me right back to Job, hanging moons and stars and since He did it, He must know better......even tho we sit and shake our heads and wonder why.

I am SO sorry.
I am praying for you guys every single day. And won't quit.
Sending big hugs and I wish we lived closer, we'd have plenty to talk about! Much love, M

the Steiger's said...

I am screaming with you :(

And praying to understand God's timing.
Lenka

emily said...

Oh sister- want to scream for you!!! Sorry about that. You are right though, He is never surprised!

becca albertson said...

I'm screaming too, for all of my frustrated adoption friends..so sorry sweet mama!

Annie said...

I'm so sorry. My heart tugged when you wrote about that feeling that you've been punched in the gut. I 've been there. I can't imagine how your heart must be breaking. Know that I'm praying for you and for the paperwork to come together.

Annie
(elise's friend)

atHisrighthand said...

Sharon!

I am screaming too.. my stomach hurts for you! ARG! I am so sorry.. You know I will be praying for you!

Praying God will show up immediately for you!
love ya,
Elise

Rahel and Nati said...

this process is so out of our hands and that is so very frusterating! our situation is similar and it literally took a trip to ethiopia for us to finally understand the whole story! i am really sorry and hope and pray that things will work out SOON!

Susan and Chad said...

Oh, you guys...we totally resonate with the fact that the timeline of things just doesn't make sense, that it's frustrating, etc. We will certainly be checking in and hoping with everything in us that the needed steps fall into place with as little ridiculous-ness as possible! Peace to you in the waiting...

Cara Meyer said...

we are adopting from Ethiopia and have gone through 2 court dates and are still waiting, with an open case. I understand....it is so hard. I am so glad God is in control and not me :) Will be praying for you and your family.

Anonymous said...

So very sorry.

Jan

Sara said...

Grrrrrr! Sorry to read about this.

Audrey said...

I'm so sorry - what a disappointment. I know that feeling, too. {{HUGS}}

Lori S said...

I was so excited to get back on and check your blog. Then, I was so disappointed to hear the latest news! I understand your frustration!!! AND, I know that you will be able to turn this over to God and trust Him with the details of this sometimes insane process!
I'm sure that God is very proud of your love for orphans and your commitment to all of your children! And, I'm sure He fully understands your frustration!
Do you have any idea how long it will take for her aunt to gather this paperwork?

Lindsey & Cortney said...

We had a similar situation with our daughters adoption. After our dossier was in country we waited 5 months to get news of our first court date which was 2 months later over a silly document that shouldn't have taken nearly that long. I did some screaming then too! Here's to hoping none of it takes too long!

Kristy -Mom To 6 Blessings said...

Hi Guys,
Just want you to konw that you are on my heart and in my prayers! Love to you all and I hope to see you all during a layover in DC soon! :-)
Oh, Grace Bizuayehu loves to look through all of her old photos and we laugh everytime we see the photo of her "protective mama" stance over Jambo & Kume when they were crying! I always take her back to your blog to show her how happy they are now! :-)
Blessings,
Kristy

The Roberts Family said...

Hey friend ...... I've been out of the loop. SO SO SORRY to hear this latest delay. Wish I could hug you in person. I hear you met up with some of the ABBA Fund staff at the Summit. :) They wrote me and I was SO jealous and told them so!!! much love you .... will keep praying you through, sister!! Blessings, Shelly

sparkz said...

I just wanted to wish you a Happy Mothers Day!

So sorry about everything else. I hate stuff like this and it seems to be the beast of adoption. I wish I had some magic words to tell you. I don't so again I am sorry and I hate that you're going through it.

Sarah and Davis said...

So frustrated for you! How irritating. At least we know that God is bigger than the CDC. We will pray for God to move NOW to bring your Baby E home.

Love, Sarah

Amanda and Co. said...

Oh, this is so unfortunate. I'm so sorry to hear this. I suppose, as you said, it's good to know that you don't have to get excited everytime the phone rings. But, what a disappointment.

I'm sorry that they're just getting started on this now. We were told that things will likely move quickly, but I'm a doubter. I always expect stuff like what happened to you, to happen to us.

Makes the journey interesting, that's for sure. Hopefully it'll get done soon.